If you want a friend, be a friend!

When someone betrays us, or we let him down, we question all friendship, feelings and trust. Then it is difficult to go back to the old way and move on, because once lost trust, it is difficult to return, especially the whole effort created for years, months, days …

We choose our friends ourselves. However, only those people who selflessly give their time to others, talk and socialize with them, listen to them and show understanding and help when needed can be called true friends. Is a friend the one who knows everything about you, or at least most of it, and still loves and respects you? I’d say it is. Even though you are not always smiling, cheerful and ready for fun, even though sometimes you make a total distasteful joke, and he / she still laughs, even though sometimes he / she does not have the right words to comfort you when you are having a hard time, but he / she is there for you. Although only silent. These are the people to be guarded.

Two-way street

Friendship is a two-way street. Ideally, there should be no addiction, arrogance, jealousy, selfishness in true friendship … But there is that. The rhythm of life sometimes drags us to a completely different side. We may unknowingly hurt a loved one with some of our actions or words. When someone betrays us, or we let him down, we question all friendship, feelings and trust. Then it is difficult to go back to the old way and move on, because once lost trust, it is difficult to return, especially the whole effort created for years, months, days …

True friendship is mutual and it takes effort on both sides to maintain it. We all make mistakes, we have flaws and insecurities. However, to see someone appreciate and love us nonetheless is truly priceless. It needs to be built, maintained and maintained. Because, there is no perfection. Just like in a relationship and marriage, friendship needs to be nurtured, worked on.

What excites me the most are the friends you don’t see for a couple of weeks / months, and yet when you go for coffee the conversations go on indefinitely. Or the ones you see every day, but even that time is not enough for you to tell yourself everything you want. Isn’t that great? We need friends. We need them for socializing, talking, giving, receiving, laughing, comforting, a shoulder to cry on …

You click with someone, you don’t with someone

I believe you can make and meet a bunch of new people and new friends throughout your life. Yes, a certain trust is built over time, but with some people you just click, you find yourself and a friendship starts to be built on that. And people need that. Let others come to you, accept new things, new insights, new people and societies. Stick to the old ones who are mostly with you, but open your heart to others as well.

I would say that without friends we are not complete. They are there, a part of us. Whether that friend is mom, dad, aunt, or a person who is not related to us, we know why we have her. And we have to be grateful for that. Because, you have to start from yourself – ask yourself – are you the person others would like to have as a friend?